The Body Knew First
Letters to My Sisters
I want to tell you about the moment my body refused. Not dramatically. There was no breakdown. No crisis. Just a morning — ordinary in every visible way — when I sat down to write something I had written dozens of times before, and my hands wouldn’t move. Not writer’s block. Not fatigue. Refusal. The body had been sending signals for months. The slight heaviness before certain calls. The way my voice flattened when I spoke about work I used to love. The sleep that never quite restored. I had been interpreting all of it as workload. As season. As something to manage. But the body doesn’t send signals to be managed. It sends them to be heard. We have been taught — especially those of us who carry leadership in our bones — that the body is something to override. That clarity is a cognitive achievement. That if we just think clearly enough, plan carefully enough, rest efficiently enough, we will arrive at the right answer. But alignment doesn’t arrive through the mind first. It arrives through the body. Through the sacral yes that hums before the logic catches up. Through the grief that moves when we finally stop performing. Through the rest that isn’t recovery — it’s revelation. The women I walk with who are in the most exquisite alignment are not the ones with the clearest strategy. They are the ones who learned to trust the signal before they understood the message. This is not soft wisdom. This is the most practical thing I know. A decision made from override costs more than money. It costs coherence. And coherence, once spent, takes longer to restore than we ever anticipate. So I want to ask you something: Where in your life right now is your body ahead of your mind? What signal are you still interpreting as a problem to solve rather than a truth to receive? Sit with that. Not to fix it. Just to hear it.
For the women ready to move from override to alignment — I offer a 21-day threshold experience called ALIGN. It is not a course. It is not a program. It is a container for the kind of listening that changes what becomes possible next. If something in you recognizes this, I’d welcome a conversation.